In the spring of 2025, I engaged in in-person or face-to-face virtual social interaction with the following people on the indicated number of days:
1. Shobhit—40
2. Laney—22
3. Gabriel—5
4. Alexia—4
5. Karen—4
6. Cathryn—4
7. Garret—3
8. Tony—5 *
9. Jake—5*
10. Jennifer—2
11. Danielle—2
12. Tracy—2
13. Mimi—2
14. Gabby—2
15. Amanda—2
16. Amy—2
17. Matthew—2
18. Brandy—2
19. Steve—2
20. Daniel—5 *
21. Chris B—4 *
22. Derek—4 *
23. Brian—1
24. Dad—1
25. Sherri—1
26. Claudia—1
27. Valerie—1
28. Lynn—1
29. Zephyr—1
30. Evan—1
31. Jessica—1
32. Marie—1
33. Tess—1
34. Nick—1
35. Berkeley—1
36. Ben—3 *
37. Ryan—5 *
38. Andrew—3 *
39. Tom—2 *
40. Frank—1
41. Steven—1
42. Peter—1
43. Stephen—1
44. Justine—1
45. Tracy—1
46. Adrienne—1
47. Benny—1
48. Chris G—1 *
49. Greg—1 *
50. Mary—1
51. Nora—1
* Regular attendee at Action Movie Night
Total days in the winter with social interaction:
72 (78.3%, a +9.5 percentage point change from
winter)
. . . Quite the shakeup this quarter! Gabriel shot to the #3 spot, a rare event indeed, thanks in huge part to the weekend trip to Fox Island at the end of May, which covered three days (and thus three points) alone. This was on top of our perennial Birth Week outing in late April, plus our virtual co-watch of
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story while texting (and sometimes calling, when Disney+ on my end paused for commercials) at the same time. A banner quarter for Gabriel.
A banner quarter for Shobhit, too! Though not by the same margin—but with far greater numbers: Shobhit managed 36 points in the fall; 40 this time around, thanks to the likes of 8 points in a row for our trip to D.C. alone, plus four more during my Birth Week alone, and another belated Birth Week point when he joined to hang out with Lynn and Zephyr in Everett a week later. Without these things, he likely would have fewer points than last quarter. Hey, we should go on long vacations more often!
Laney remains safely ensconced at #2, though she has 22 points this quarter versus 27 she had last quarter. She'd have had 23, actually, but she had to cancel joining me at last night's movie due to a stomach bug. It made no difference to her standing in the rankings, of course—ever since she moved to Pride Place only six blocks away from me, and especially after I convinced her to sign up for an AMC-A-list membership, she is now pretty firmly in place as my "Number Two" social buddy, on par with the position Barbara had in my life between 2000 and 2010. (The key difference is that Laney doesn't clean our condo or do our ironing. God, I miss being able to pay Barbara to do that!)
Alexia has long been pretty firmly in the #3 spot, although her point totals have gone down on average largely because of her move out to Issaquah last year—thankfully we still get together with reliable regularity. Still, this time around it was Gabriel (of all people!) who knocked Alexia down to #4. Karen has bounced back to #5 with four points herself this quarter, and then Cathryn, from work, makes a surprise jump to #6, also with four points—thanks to two lunches and two different work group outings. And right after her, Garret, Gabriel's brother, makes an unheard-of appearance in the top 10, simply for the three days he spent with Gabriel and me on Fox Island.
After that, we get Tony and Jake ranked at #8 and #9, respectively, them being among the group that gets kind of an unfair advantage thanks to the built-in biweekly event of Action Movie Night at the Braeburn Condos. There are other Action Movie Night regulars with as many points, but I ranked them much lower just because I don't tend to chat with or interact with them nearly as much. Jennifer, Danielle and Tracy all rank higher than other Action Movie Night regulars even though they each have only two points because I definitely spent far more time with them, both cumulatively and in direct socializing and interaction. (I actually stayed the night at Jennifer's house, my annual Birth Week tradition—Mimi gets 2 points as well for the same reason: Shobhit and I stayed the night with her whe we went up to Mount Vernon for the Tulip Festival.)
Anyway. I guess that's all the insight I need to share—except, I suppose, that I have 50 people ranked this quarter, compared to 33 from the fall, a big part of that being the Spring Social with my department at work at Flatstick Pub. My Birth Week always ups the numbers there too. It's the number of days I socialized with
someone that's kind of astonishing this time around: over the past three months there were only 20 days in which I did no socializing at all! Basically I've been socializing during 80% of my days, or four out of every five days.
All right, let's get on with it! The who did what with whom where and when. . .
Saturday, March 22: with Shobhit, Michael, Sarah, and more,
News Desk watch party in Lacey
Sunday, March 23: with Tracy,
to a movie (
Blue Velvet at The Grand Cinema in Tacoma) and
out for lunch (Corina Bakery)
Monday, March 24: with Laney,
to a movie (
The Assessment)
Tuesday, March 25: with Laney,
BYOB Happy Hour at
Pioneer Square Habitat Beach
Tuesday, March 25: with Laney and Shobhit,
sunset hangout at
Pioneer Square Habitat Beach
Friday, March 28: with Karen,
lunch over Zoom
Friday, March 28: with Laney,
to a movie (
Death of a Unicorn)
Saturday, March 29: with Shobhit and Alexia,
Afternoon Tea at the
Fairmont Olympic Hotel
Saturday, March 29: with Shobhit,
to a movie (
Daddy Dearest at NW Film Forum)
Sunday, March 30: with Laney,
Braeburn Condos double feature (
Waltz with Bashir and
Flow)
Monday, March 31: with Shobhit,
out for a walk, to 29th & Madison and back
Wednesday, April 2: with Shobhit, Tony, Jake, Ryan, Ben, Chris G, Chris B, Andrew, Greg, Kevin, Daniel, and the old man,
Action Movie Night (
Fucktoys)
Thursday, April 3: with Laney,
to a movie (
A Minecraft Movie)
Friday, April 4: with Shobhit,
walking to Capitol Hill from work with me
Saturday, April 5: with Laney,
Braeburn Condos Double Feature (
The Wedding Banquet (1993) and
Black Widow)
Saturday, April 5: with Shobhit,
Cherry Blossoms at
UW
Sunday, April 6: with Shobhit and Danielle,
chai, dinner and Yahtzee at our place
Monday, April 7: with Laney,
Happy Hour at
Saint John's Bar & Eatery
Thursday, April 10: with Laney,
to a movie (
A Nice Indian Boy)
Friday, April 11: with Alexia,
to a movie (
The Amateur)
Saturday, April 12: with Shobhit,
out for a walk, to Lake Washington and then Downtown
Sunday, April 13: with Shobhit,
out for a walk, to Louisa Boren Lookout and Capitol Hill Farmers Market
Sunday, April 13: with Alexia,
Braeburn Condos double feature (
Batman Forever and
Batman & Robin)
Tuesday, April 15: with Karen,
lunch over Zoom
Wednesday, April 16: with Tony, Jake, Ben, Ryan, Chris B, Andrew, Tom, Derek, and Shobhit,
Action Movie Night (
A Working Man)
Friday, April 18: with Shobhit,
Tulip Festival 2025
Friday, April 18: with Shobhit and Mimi,
out for drinks (
Revival Lounge)
Friday, April 18: with Shobhit, Mimi and Steve,
out for dinner (The Fairhaven) and staying the night at their place
Saturday, April 19: with Shobhit, Mimi and Steve, breakfast and
hanging out at their place
Monday, April 21: with Laney,
to a movie (
The Wedding Banquet)
Tuesday, April 22: with Shobhit and Laney,
to a movie (
Sinners)
Thursday, April 24: with Shobhit and Mary,
Mary's art showing
Friday, April 25: with Karen,
Birth Week, Day One:
out for dinner (
Tutta Bella) and to the
Space Needle
Saturday, April 26: with Claudia, Birth Week, Day Two:
walk to the
waterfront and back
in Port Orchard
Saturday, April 26: with Gabriel, Tess, and Berkeley,
out for lunch (
Whiskey Gulch in
Port Orchard)
Saturday, April 26: with Jennifer and Matthew, Birth Week, Day Two:
Lake Cushman Lookout and
drive around Lake Cushman,
out for dinner (
2 Margaritas), and staying the night
at their place
Sunday, April 26: with Jennifer and Matthew, breakfast tacos at their place
Sunday, April 27: with Dad and Sherri,
Birth Week, Day Three: hanging out
at their house
Sunday, April 27: with Dad,
checking the view at the Thurston County Courthouse,
picnic lunch at
Overlook Point Park,
West Bay Park
Monday, April 28: with Laney,
Birth Week, Day Four: bussing to Tacoma
Monday, April 28: with Laney and Jessica,
East 34th Street Bridge
Monday, April 28: with Laney, Jessica, and Tracy,
Happy Hour at
Stanley & Seafort's,
Tacoma
Tuesday, April 29: with Valerie,
Birth Week, Day Five:
hiking up Tiger Mountain to
Poo Poo Point
Wednesday, April 30: with Shobhit, Birth Week, Day Six:
trip to Portland,
Portland Aerial Tram,
Multnomah County Central Library,
to a gay stripper bar (
Silverado), and staying at
The Paramount Hotel
Wednesday, April 30: with Shobhit and Evan,
out for dinner (
Elephants Delicatessen)
Thursday, May 1: with Shobhit, Birth Week, Day Seven:
out for breakfast (
Daily Feast),
Mount Tabor Park
Friday, May 2: with Danielle, Birth Week, Day Eight:
Columbia Center Sky View Observatory, lunch at
Old Stove Brewing Co, and walking the Seattle Waterfront
Saturday, May 3: with Shobhit and Alexia, Birth Week, Day Nine:
Mt. Rainier Gondola at
Crystal Mountain
Saturday, May 3: with Alexia, Birth Week, Day Nine:
Smith Tower Observatory
Sunday, May 4: with Shobhit, Birth Week, Day Nine:
walk to
Dr. Jose Rizal Park
Tuesday, May 6: with Laney,
to a movie (
Thunderbolts*)
Wednesday, May 7: with Shobhit,
to a movie (
The Accountant 2)
Thursday, May 8: with Gabby, Noah, Cathryn, Frank, Amy, Brandy, Amanda, Steven, Peter, Stephen, Justine, Tracy, Adrienne, Benny, and more,
spring team social at
Flatstick Pub
Saturday, May 10: with Shobhit,
out for a walk, to Louisa Boren Park and Volunteer Park
Saturday, May 10: with Laney,
Happy Hour at
Paradise Broadway
Sunday, May 11: with Shobhit, Lynn, Zephyr, and Nick, Birth Week Belated:
picnic at
Grand Avenue Park in
Everett;
Everett Farmers Market; and
brief visit at Lynn and Zephyr's house
Wednesday, May 14: with Gabby, Amy, Cathryn, Brandy, and Marie,
out for drinks at Six-Seven at the Edgewater Hotel
Wednesday, May 14: with Shobhit, Tony, Jake, Ryan, Ben, Chris B, Derek, Daniel, and Andy,
Action Movie Night (
Orgazmo)
Thursday, May 15: with Laney,
to a movie (
Friendship)
Friday, May 16: with Shobhit,
out for a walk to Louisa Boren Lookout and Volunteer Park
Saturday, May 17: with Shobhit,
walk to Quality Flea Center on 15th Ave E
Saturday, May 17: with Gabriel,
movie watch party over Disney+ and text (
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story)
Sunday, May 18: with Shobhit,
out for a walk to Volunteer Park and Capitol Hill Farmers Market
Sunday, May 18: with Laney,
Happy Hour at
La Cocina Oaxaqueña
Tuesday, May 20: with Laney,
to a movie (
Things Like This)
Wednesday, May 21: with Cathryn,
out for lunch (Moto Pizza)
Friday, May 23: with Shobhit,
Northwest Folklife Festival
Saturday, May 24: with Laney,
movie watch party over Prime Video and text (
28 Days Later and
28 Weeks Later)
Sunday, May 25: with Shobhit,
Northwest Folklife Festival, then
to a movie (
Twinless)
Monday, May 26: with Shobhit,
out for a walk up Broadway and back
Monday, May 26: with Laney,
movie watch party streaming + text (
M3GAN) and
out for drinks at
Cantina del Sol
Wednesday, May 28: with Shobhit, Tony, Jake, Ryan, Chris B, Derek, and Andrew,
Action Movie Night (
RoboCop (2014))
Friday, May 30: with Gabriel and Garret,
out for drinks in Gig Harbor (
7 Seas Brewing), and
staying at an AirBnB on
Fox Island
Saturday, May 31: with Gabriel and Garret,
playiny bocce ball,
kayaking, and
otherwise hanging out on
Fox Island
Saturday, May 31: with Gabriel, Garret, Brian and Nora,
Fox Island History Museum,
walking Fox Island beach at low tide, and out for dinner (
Zog's)
Sunday, June 1: with Gabriel and Garret,
bike ride on
Fox Island, and out for breakfast (
Netshed No. 9)
Tuesday, June 3: with Shobhit,
taking off on flight
to Washington, D.C.
Wednesday, June 4: with Shobhit, out for breakfast (
Call Your Mother Deli and
Un Je Ne Sais Quoi...),
Library of Congress,
Supreme Court Building,
Georgetown Waterfront Park,
C&O Canal Towpath,
The Exorcist Steps, and
Theodore Roosevelt Island in
Arlington, Virginia
Thursday, June 5: with Shobhit,
U.S. Capitol tour,
Bureau of Engraving and Printing tour,
walking Natonal Mall memorials,
9/11 Pentagon Memorial in Arlington Virginia, and out for dessert (
Residents Café & Bar)
Friday, June 6: with Shobhit,
Washington Monument observation deck,
Old Post Office clock tower,
White House tour,
Renwick Gallery,
Apple Carnegie Library,
Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial Library,
Ford's Theater &
Petersen House,
DC Alley Museum, out for dessert (
Praline Bakery), World Pride Boat Parade, Pride on the Pier
Saturday, June 7: with Shobhit,
Capital Pride 17th Street Block Party,
World Pride Street Festival,
World Pride Parade, return to
Capital Pride 17th Street Block Party,
Pride on the Pier,
Fireworks Show
Sunday, June 8: with Shobhit,
World Pride International Rally +
March on Washington for Freedom,
World Pride Street Festval, out for dinner (
Trio Bistro)
Monday, June 9: with Shobhit,
United States Holocaust Memorial Museum,
National Museum of
African American History and Culture, snacks at a food truck,
National Museum of
American History,
Lincoln Memorial &
Washington Monument &
African American Museum at night, checking out
VUE rooftop bar, and
out for dinner (
Olio E Piú)
Tuesday, June 10: with Shobhit, out for breakfast (
Founding Farmers)
Wednesday, June 11: with Shobhit, Tony, Sarah, Jake, Ryan, Derek, Tom, and Daniel,
Action Movie Night (
Dodgeball: A True Underdog Story)
Thursday, June 12: with Cathryn and Amanda,
out for lunch (Moto Pizza)
Thursday, June 12: with Laney,
to a movie (
The Phoeician Scheme)
Friday, June 13: with Laney,
to a movie (
Materialists)
Saturday, June 14: with Shobhit,
No Kings Mass Protest Rally & March
Sunday, June 15: with Laney,
to a movie (
How to Train Your Dragon) and
BYOB Happy Hour at
Pioneer Square Habitat Beach
Thursday, June 19: with Laney,
to a movie (
28 Years later)
Friday, June 20: with Karen,
lunch over Zoom