the fruitcake enterprises social review—spring 2025

In the spring of 2025, I engaged in in-person or face-to-face virtual social interaction with the following people on the indicated number of days:

06062025-280 1. Shobhit—40
05102025-04 2. Laney—22
05312025-11 3. Gabriel—5
05032025-69 4. Alexia—4
04252025-26 5. Karen—4
05082025-26 6. Cathryn—4
05302025-27 7. Garret—3
07102023-02 8. Tony—5 *
05012024-33 9. Jake—5*
04262025-57 10. Jennifer—2
05022025-Danielle03 11. Danielle—2
04282025-20 12. Tracy—2
04182025-80 13. Mimi—2
05142025-01 14. Gabby—2
05082025-03 15. Amanda—2
05082025-11 16. Amy—2
04262025-47 17. Matthew—2
05082025-11
18. Brandy—2
04192025-04 19. Steve—2
09062023-01 20. Daniel—5 *
09062023-01 21. Chris B—4 *
05012024-33 22. Derek—4 *
05312025-56 23. Brian—1
04272025-18 24. Dad—1
04202025-07 25. Sherri—1
04262025-13 26. Claudia—1
04292025-30 27. Valerie—1
05112025-20 28. Lynn—1
05112025-15 29. Zephyr—1
04302025-121 30. Evan—1
04282025-05 31. Jessica—1
04142018-22 32. Marie—1
04262025-26 33. Tess—1
05112025-16 34. Nick—1
04262025-26 35. Berkeley—1
05112025-16 36. Ben—3 *
05012024-33 37. Ryan—5 *
09062023-01 38. Andrew—3 *
05012024-33 39. Tom—2 *
05082025-14 40. Frank—1
05082025-17 41. Steven—1
04182024-23 42. Peter—1
05082025-19 43. Stephen—1
05082025-08 44. Justine—1
05082025-07 45. Tracy—1
05082025-18 46. Adrienne—1
05082025-21 47. Benny—1
09062023-01 48. Chris G—1 *
09062023-01 49. Greg—1 *
04242025-25 50. Mary—1
05312025-5651. Nora—1


* Regular attendee at Action Movie Night

Total days in the winter with social interaction: 72 (78.3%, a +9.5 percentage point change from winter)


. . . Quite the shakeup this quarter! Gabriel shot to the #3 spot, a rare event indeed, thanks in huge part to the weekend trip to Fox Island at the end of May, which covered three days (and thus three points) alone. This was on top of our perennial Birth Week outing in late April, plus our virtual co-watch of Rogue One: A Star Wars Story while texting (and sometimes calling, when Disney+ on my end paused for commercials) at the same time. A banner quarter for Gabriel.

A banner quarter for Shobhit, too! Though not by the same margin—but with far greater numbers: Shobhit managed 36 points in the fall; 40 this time around, thanks to the likes of 8 points in a row for our trip to D.C. alone, plus four more during my Birth Week alone, and another belated Birth Week point when he joined to hang out with Lynn and Zephyr in Everett a week later. Without these things, he likely would have fewer points than last quarter. Hey, we should go on long vacations more often!

Laney  remains safely ensconced at #2, though she has 22 points this quarter versus 27 she had last quarter. She'd have had 23, actually, but she had to cancel joining me at last night's movie due to a stomach bug. It made no difference to her standing in the rankings, of course—ever since she moved to Pride Place only six blocks away from me, and especially after I convinced her to sign up for an AMC-A-list membership, she is now pretty firmly in place as my "Number Two" social buddy, on par with the position Barbara had in my life between 2000 and 2010. (The key difference is that Laney doesn't clean our condo or do our ironing. God, I miss being able to pay Barbara to do that!)

Alexia has long been pretty firmly in the #3 spot, although her point totals have gone down on average largely because of her move out to Issaquah last year—thankfully we still get together with reliable regularity. Still, this time around it was Gabriel (of all people!) who knocked Alexia down to #4. Karen has bounced back to #5 with four points herself this quarter, and then Cathryn, from work, makes a surprise jump to #6, also with four points—thanks to two lunches and two different work group outings. And right after her, Garret, Gabriel's brother, makes an unheard-of appearance in the top 10, simply for the three days he spent with Gabriel and me on Fox Island.

After that, we get Tony and Jake ranked at #8 and #9, respectively, them being among the group that gets kind of an unfair advantage thanks to the built-in biweekly event of Action Movie Night at the Braeburn Condos. There are other Action Movie Night regulars with as many points, but I ranked them much lower just because I don't tend to chat with or interact with them nearly as much. Jennifer, Danielle and Tracy all rank higher than other Action Movie Night regulars even though they each have only two points because I definitely spent far more time with them, both cumulatively and in direct socializing and interaction. (I actually stayed the night at Jennifer's house, my annual Birth Week tradition—Mimi gets 2 points as well for the same reason: Shobhit and I stayed the night with her whe we went up to Mount Vernon for the Tulip Festival.)

Anyway. I guess that's all the insight I need to share—except, I suppose, that I have 50 people ranked this quarter, compared to 33 from the fall, a big part of that being the Spring Social with my department at work at Flatstick Pub. My Birth Week always ups the numbers there too. It's the number of days I socialized with someone that's kind of astonishing this time around: over the past three months there were only 20 days in which I did no socializing at all! Basically I've been socializing during 80% of my days, or four out of every five days.

All right, let's get on with it! The who did what with whom where and when. . .


Saturday, March 22: with Shobhit, Michael, Sarah, and more, News Desk watch party in Lacey

Sunday, March 23: with Tracy, to a movie (Blue Velvet at The Grand Cinema in Tacoma) and out for lunch (Corina Bakery)

Monday, March 24: with Laney, to a movie (The Assessment)

Tuesday, March 25: with Laney, BYOB Happy Hour at Pioneer Square Habitat Beach

Tuesday, March 25: with Laney and Shobhit, sunset hangout at Pioneer Square Habitat Beach

Friday, March 28: with Karen, lunch over Zoom

Friday, March 28: with Laney, to a movie (Death of a Unicorn)

Saturday, March 29: with Shobhit and Alexia, Afternoon Tea at the Fairmont Olympic Hotel

Saturday, March 29: with Shobhit, to a movie (Daddy Dearest at NW Film Forum)

Sunday, March 30: with Laney, Braeburn Condos double feature (Waltz with Bashir and Flow)

Monday, March 31: with Shobhit, out for a walk, to 29th & Madison and back

Wednesday, April 2: with Shobhit, Tony, Jake, Ryan, Ben, Chris G, Chris B, Andrew, Greg, Kevin, Daniel, and the old man, Action Movie Night (Fucktoys)

Thursday, April 3: with Laney, to a movie (A Minecraft Movie)

Friday, April 4: with Shobhit, walking to Capitol Hill from work with me

Saturday, April 5: with Laney, Braeburn Condos Double Feature (The Wedding Banquet (1993) and Black Widow)

Saturday, April 5: with Shobhit, Cherry Blossoms at UW

Sunday, April 6: with Shobhit and Danielle, chai, dinner and Yahtzee at our place

Monday, April 7: with Laney, Happy Hour at Saint John's Bar & Eatery

Thursday, April 10: with Laney, to a movie (A Nice Indian Boy)

Friday, April 11: with Alexia, to a movie (The Amateur)

Saturday, April 12: with Shobhit, out for a walk, to Lake Washington and then Downtown

Sunday, April 13: with Shobhit, out for a walk, to Louisa Boren Lookout and Capitol Hill Farmers Market

Sunday, April 13: with Alexia, Braeburn Condos double feature (Batman Forever and Batman & Robin)

Tuesday, April 15: with Karen, lunch over Zoom

Wednesday, April 16: with Tony, Jake, Ben, Ryan, Chris B, Andrew, Tom, Derek, and Shobhit, Action Movie Night (A Working Man)

Friday, April 18: with Shobhit, Tulip Festival 2025

Friday, April 18: with Shobhit and Mimi, out for drinks (Revival Lounge)

Friday, April 18: with Shobhit, Mimi and Steve, out for dinner (The Fairhaven) and staying the night at their place

Saturday, April 19: with Shobhit, Mimi and Steve, breakfast and hanging out at their place

Monday, April 21: with Laney, to a movie (The Wedding Banquet)

Tuesday, April 22: with Shobhit and Laney, to a movie (Sinners)

Thursday, April 24: with Shobhit and Mary, Mary's art showing

Friday, April 25: with Karen, Birth Week, Day One: out for dinner (Tutta Bella) and to the Space Needle

Saturday, April 26: with Claudia, Birth Week, Day Two: walk to the waterfront and back in Port Orchard

Saturday, April 26: with Gabriel, Tess, and Berkeley, out for lunch (Whiskey Gulch in Port Orchard)

Saturday, April 26: with Jennifer and Matthew, Birth Week, Day Two: Lake Cushman Lookout and drive around Lake Cushman, out for dinner (2 Margaritas), and staying the night at their place

Sunday, April 26: with Jennifer and Matthew, breakfast tacos at their place

Sunday, April 27: with Dad and Sherri, Birth Week, Day Three: hanging out at their house

Sunday, April 27: with Dad, checking the view at the Thurston County Courthouse, picnic lunch at Overlook Point Park, West Bay Park

Monday, April 28: with Laney, Birth Week, Day Four: bussing to Tacoma

Monday, April 28: with Laney and Jessica, East 34th Street Bridge

Monday, April 28: with Laney, Jessica, and Tracy, Happy Hour at Stanley & Seafort's, Tacoma

Tuesday, April 29: with Valerie, Birth Week, Day Five: hiking up Tiger Mountain to Poo Poo Point

Wednesday, April 30: with Shobhit, Birth Week, Day Six: trip to Portland, Portland Aerial Tram, Multnomah County Central Library, to a gay stripper bar (Silverado), and staying at The Paramount Hotel

Wednesday, April 30: with Shobhit and Evan, out for dinner (Elephants Delicatessen)

Thursday, May 1: with Shobhit, Birth Week, Day Seven: out for breakfast (Daily Feast), Mount Tabor Park

Friday, May 2: with Danielle, Birth Week, Day Eight: Columbia Center Sky View Observatory, lunch at Old Stove Brewing Co, and walking the Seattle Waterfront

Saturday, May 3: with Shobhit and Alexia, Birth Week, Day Nine: Mt. Rainier Gondola at Crystal Mountain

Saturday, May 3: with Alexia, Birth Week, Day Nine: Smith Tower Observatory

Sunday, May 4: with Shobhit, Birth Week, Day Nine: walk to Dr. Jose Rizal Park

Tuesday, May 6: with Laney, to a movie (Thunderbolts*)

Wednesday, May 7: with Shobhit, to a movie (The Accountant 2)

Thursday, May 8: with Gabby, Noah, Cathryn, Frank, Amy, Brandy, Amanda, Steven, Peter, Stephen, Justine, Tracy, Adrienne, Benny, and more, spring team social at Flatstick Pub

Saturday, May 10: with Shobhit, out for a walk, to Louisa Boren Park and Volunteer Park

Saturday, May 10: with Laney, Happy Hour at Paradise Broadway

Sunday, May 11: with Shobhit, Lynn, Zephyr, and Nick, Birth Week Belated: picnic at Grand Avenue Park in Everett; Everett Farmers Market; and brief visit at Lynn and Zephyr's house

Wednesday, May 14: with Gabby, Amy, Cathryn, Brandy, and Marie, out for drinks at Six-Seven at the Edgewater Hotel

Wednesday, May 14: with Shobhit, Tony, Jake, Ryan, Ben, Chris B, Derek, Daniel, and Andy, Action Movie Night (Orgazmo)

Thursday, May 15: with Laney, to a movie (Friendship)

Friday, May 16: with Shobhit, out for a walk to Louisa Boren Lookout and Volunteer Park

Saturday, May 17: with Shobhit, walk to Quality Flea Center on 15th Ave E

Saturday, May 17: with Gabriel, movie watch party over Disney+ and text (Rogue One: A Star Wars Story)

Sunday, May 18: with Shobhit, out for a walk to Volunteer Park and Capitol Hill Farmers Market

Sunday, May 18: with Laney, Happy Hour at La Cocina Oaxaqueña

Tuesday, May 20: with Laney, to a movie (Things Like This)

Wednesday, May 21: with Cathryn, out for lunch (Moto Pizza)

Friday, May 23: with Shobhit, Northwest Folklife Festival

Saturday, May 24: with Laney, movie watch party over Prime Video and text (28 Days Later and 28 Weeks Later)

Sunday, May 25: with Shobhit, Northwest Folklife Festival, then to a movie (Twinless)

Monday, May 26: with Shobhit, out for a walk up Broadway and back

Monday, May 26: with Laney, movie watch party streaming + text (M3GAN) and out for drinks at Cantina del Sol

Wednesday, May 28: with Shobhit, Tony, Jake, Ryan, Chris B, Derek, and Andrew, Action Movie Night (RoboCop (2014))

Friday, May 30: with Gabriel and Garret, out for drinks in Gig Harbor (7 Seas Brewing), and staying at an AirBnB on Fox Island

Saturday, May 31: with Gabriel and Garret, playiny bocce ball, kayaking, and otherwise hanging out on Fox Island

Saturday, May 31: with Gabriel, Garret, Brian and Nora, Fox Island History Museum, walking Fox Island beach at low tide, and out for dinner (Zog's)

Sunday, June 1: with Gabriel and Garret, bike ride on Fox Island, and out for breakfast (Netshed No. 9)

Tuesday, June 3: with Shobhit, taking off on flight to Washington, D.C.

Wednesday, June 4: with Shobhit, out for breakfast (Call Your Mother Deli and Un Je Ne Sais Quoi...), Library of Congress, Supreme Court Building, Georgetown Waterfront Park, C&O Canal Towpath, The Exorcist Steps, and Theodore Roosevelt Island in Arlington, Virginia

Thursday, June 5: with Shobhit, U.S. Capitol tour, Bureau of Engraving and Printing tour, walking Natonal Mall memorials, 9/11 Pentagon Memorial in Arlington Virginia, and out for dessert (Residents Café & Bar)

Friday, June 6: with Shobhit, Washington Monument observation deck, Old Post Office clock tower, White House tour, Renwick Gallery, Apple Carnegie Library, Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial Library, Ford's Theater & Petersen House, DC Alley Museum, out for dessert (Praline Bakery), World Pride Boat Parade, Pride on the Pier

Saturday, June 7: with Shobhit, Capital Pride 17th Street Block Party, World Pride Street Festival, World Pride Parade, return to Capital Pride 17th Street Block Party, Pride on the Pier, Fireworks Show

Sunday, June 8: with Shobhit, World Pride International Rally + March on Washington for Freedom, World Pride Street Festval, out for dinner (Trio Bistro)

Monday, June 9: with Shobhit, United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, National Museum of African American History and Culture, snacks at a food truck, National Museum of American History, Lincoln Memorial & Washington Monument & African American Museum at night, checking out VUE rooftop bar, and out for dinner (Olio E Piú)

Tuesday, June 10: with Shobhit, out for breakfast (Founding Farmers)

Wednesday, June 11: with Shobhit, Tony, Sarah, Jake, Ryan, Derek, Tom, and Daniel, Action Movie Night (Dodgeball: A True Underdog Story)

Thursday, June 12: with Cathryn and Amanda, out for lunch (Moto Pizza)

Thursday, June 12: with Laney, to a movie (The Phoeician Scheme)

Friday, June 13: with Laney, to a movie (Materialists)

Saturday, June 14: with Shobhit, No Kings Mass Protest Rally & March

Sunday, June 15: with Laney, to a movie (How to Train Your Dragon) and BYOB Happy Hour at Pioneer Square Habitat Beach

Thursday, June 19: with Laney, to a movie (28 Years later)

Friday, June 20: with Karen, lunch over Zoom